Upcoming Events

Shame Lab

A Playful Experiment in Shameful and Embarrassing Sexual Fantasies

Facilitated by Alex, Justine and Phil

June 27 to 29, New Paltz, NY

Have you ever wished for a container where you felt fully safe and free to explore your juiciest edges and desires?  Is there something hot about being embarrassed?  Do you want to witness other people's fantasies or participate in acting out a sexual fantasy?  Do you want to bring voice and action to a desire that sparks shame?

In this Laboratory we will share our sexual fantasies with complete freedom of expression.  Any shame and embarrassment will be witnessed without judgment.  We will hold each other with love and compassion.  

There will be opportunities to:

• Talk about your fantasies, investigating what might be underneath

• Explore your edges and perhaps expand your comfort zone

• See if exploring fantasies can be healing, while keeping it all playful

• Act out fantasies with any of us participating in various roles

• Share what we discovered in group integrations

• Play with the mechanics and healing potential of sexual fantasy through role play.

• Explore the roots of our shame with care and discernment

• Have some juicy fun.

Fee: $250.  This includes event facilitation, food and lodging.  

Check to Embrace Arousal

Zelle: philleger@verizon.net

Venmo: www.venmo.com/u/Philip-Leger-2

Arrive Friday starting at 5:00.  Dinner at 7:00.  

Please arrive before dinnertime. We will create our container that evening with an opening ritual, and begin connecting for our weekend together. 

Ends Sunday at 3:00.

All meals will be provided, and bedding is available for everyone.  Our house has an open floor plan, so there is very limited private sleeping space.

Our property is a clothing optional sanctuary in a semi-rural setting.

First Timers: Please fill out the questionnaire below by copying and pasting into an email, and sending to embracearousal@gmail.com.  

You should expect a high degree of sexual expression and engagement in this container.  This workshop also invites a more advanced level of scene work and offers an opportunity to push edges and confront triggers that may be especially vulnerable or challenging for some.  The expectation is that participants are able to self regulate.  We are constructing a safe and supportive container that seeks to hold both the crunchy bits and a high degree of pleasure with loving compassion and playfulness.  If you are unsure if this is the right space for you, please reach out to one of us!

Come, share and surrender with us.  Alex, Justine and Phil

Facilitators:

Phil & Justine Leger have studied Sky Dancing Tantra founded by Margot Anand (completed the Love and Ecstasy Training), attended multiple ISTA (International School of Temple Arts) trainings (L1, L2, PT), studied with various schools of Somatic Sex Education, studied BDSM with Om Rupani and others, are active members in their local Kink community, and are also active with The Body Sacred (a sacred sexuality community). Justine is a certified VITA Sex, Love and Relationship Coach.  We love inviting people to play with us in the juicy edges of our comfort zone.  We can be reached at embracearousal@gmail.com or at https://www.embracearousal.com/.

Alex Akarta (they/he) is a trauma-informed, transformational kink practitioner, certified through the Integrative Arts Institute.  They also hold a BFA in psychology from New York University.  Blending clinical therapy with shamanic practices and an embrace of sacred eros, Alex specializes in themes including relationship with the body, fear & shame release, growth through vulnerability, shamanic journeying, erotic reclamation & soul retrieval.  Through a collaborative healing process, Alex seeks to invite others to liberate the energy of fear, of shame, of guilt, into the energy of life.  They can be reached directly at vulnerable.living@protonmail.com or at https://vulnerable.living/ 

Questionnaire

Thank you for your interest in Shame Lab. We'd like to get to know a bit about you. Please answer the following questions thoughtfully and send to us at embracearousal@gmail.com. Your responses will be shared only with Alex, Justine and Phil 

Questionnaires should be submitted to embracearousal@gmail.com at least one week before an event you wish to attend, and preferably more. 

--What is your first name?

--What decade were you born in?

--If you are single, tell us how you feel about that. If you are in a committed relationship, tell us about it, including any relationship agreements.

--Do you plan on attending your first Shame Lab with a date?  If so, please give his/her first name and email address. This is requested to help us find them in our files. If your date has not attended a Shame Lab, have them respond to this questionnaire as well.

--Tell us about any self inquiry studies, practices, retreats.

--What is your philosophy on sex? 

--What role does sexuality play in your life?

--Have you been to erotic parties before?  If so, tell us about them, including what you liked/disliked about them. 

--What do you hope to find at Shame Lab?  What are your expectations?

--What do you think you would bring/add to Shame Lab?

--Please send a g-rated photo (looking at camera, head fully in frame, no hat).